13 Eylül 2009

‘White’ the colour of truth?

As an old acquaintance used to say;

'Men marry an object, women marry a person.
Men look up the specifications of that object,
Women analyze the character of that person!'



I am astonished that we persuade ourselves into believing that white gowns symbolise the virginity of the bride. Moreover, when a woman passes a certain age and crosses that thin line from unattached over to a spinster, then she is not allowed to wear the white gown anymore. Simply because society believes that the colour symbolises the virginity and the purity of a woman. Neither one of these epithets is applicable to a woman either over 25, or with a life of her own. Or both. We also believe that a woman has only one chance of wearing it. In other words, if your husband died or you got divorced then you are not allowed to wear the white, precious, gown.

Men and women have different ideas about a wedding. Women want to be a princess for a day; men want their princess to feel the pea under twenty mattresses. Men want their princess to be pure, untouched by life, thought, ideas, intellect. And naturally who also have no experience with intimacy, nor any intention to enjoy intimacy. I believe that the colour white is the Achilles’ heel for men because it is a flaw in their character. They actually believe that a colour has an input in their lives. In this day and age they think that they have a right to wed a blank slate, rather than a human being. I wonder if it ever occurs to men, these narrow minded creatures that even Barbie dreams of this event. Even a doll has ideas about this special day. Enter Ken. (This seems like a good opportunity to point out that some men only exist to pleasure women, those men are called homosexuals).

The white symbolises hope and happiness. It represents the purity of love and not virginity as some men want to accept as the ultimate truth. Virginity is such a vague concept, that it becomes more and more difficult to define it. This makes one feel astonished because it is a primitive thought, to put a colour like white, in charge of the human thoughts, and a part of a woman’s anatomy. It is heartbreaking to observe that our values are attached to a colour. Should it not be more important to choose a partner for life on the basis of personality? The significance of white is only important for the day. A virgin a better wife does not make.

In recent times, there has been a discussion about, whether a sexually active woman should wear a white gown or not. I believe that these kinds of discussions oppress women in general. Men on the other hand do not have to carry the burden of virginity. Although they expect this from their future wives, how sincere are they about themselves. Do they regard themselves as a husband? Do they fulfil their own expectation towards their future wives? In my opinion men are exempt from the myth of virginity, because theirs cannot be “verified”. It is easier to overlook their sexual activity, because hell, they are MEN. Not sissy boys. They become sissy boys after catching a venereal disease from the few girls that do put out due to lack of self esteem, and their inability to distinguish love from being screwed over, in more ways than one. But then again, the groom never wears a white suit.

I believe if men truly respect women than they should be unbiased. Their main concern ought to be whether his future wife is well mannered, and if they are sharing more things than a bed and a kitchen. He should be genuine by choosing his children’s mother because that is more significant than the colour she is going to be wearing the day she will marry her prince charming.

8 yorum:

  1. Ozlem Pintaloglunun damat aday adayiPazar, Eylül 13, 2009

    'Men marry an object, women marry a person.
    Men look up the specifications of that object,
    Women analyze the character of that person!'

    "object" olmasi basit iken , " person " olmasi baya zor, cok fazla seyler beklemeyin erkeklerden :PP zaten sacimiz dokuluyor bir de siz dokturmeyin :P Gerci bizde hayattaki davranislarina bakariz, yuz hikayesini okuruz :))

    Son haberlere gore Özlem Piltanoğlu Türköne cifti bile ayrilmis, kiyamet alametlerinden biri olabilir bu. Simdi o Ozlem hanim bir daha beyaz gelinlik giyemeyecek mi ;(

    Illa beyaz olacak diye bir dusunceye sahip degilim, soyle mavili kirmizili elbisede super giderdi :) param olursa kendi ellerimle dikecegim ama bu da sorun olabilir ugursuz oluyormus gelinligi gormek, yine huzun

    sevgilerimle,

    Ozlem Pintaloglunun damat aday adayi.

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  2. Erkenning, daar draait het eigenlijk allemaal om en respect natuurlijk.
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    Girgirina vurmussun ancak bunu gerçek hayatta öyle algilamayanlar var. Aslinda bu yazimi (yeniden) yerlestirmemin sebebi zamaninda bir hayli ilgi görmesinden kaynaklaniyor. Hos o dönem daha çok bayanlar tepki vermisti. Aslinda erkeklerinde konu hakkinda ki düsüncelerini merak ediyorum.

    Son olarak, burda bahsi geçen 'white' in sadece bir gelinlten ibaret olmadiginin da farkindasiniz dir herhalde; en azindan öyle ümid ediyorum.

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  3. Insanlar hata yapabilir, bir kiz icin bir erkek bir yil pesinde kosupta 2 hafta sonra doydum senden dedigi olaylar olmustur. Insanlar istemedigi olaylarla karsilasabilir. Boyle olaylarda kizlara pek yuklenilecegini zannetmiyorum.
    Ama onune gelenle kalan bir kizin degeri benim gozumde hic kalmaz, etrafda gordugumde bu yonde zaten.
    Ozlem Pintaloglu ornegini verirken akli basinda kararlar vermis ama yinede ayrilmis bir insana kotu gozle bakilmayacagini soylemek icindi.
    Ayrilip evlenen insanlar sayisiz, onlar birbirlerine saygi gosteriyorsa baskalarina soz dusmes.
    Erkeklere gelince kisaca yazayim yapsan olmuyor yapmasan olmuyor sevsen olmuyor sevmesen olmuyor. yine kazanan guclu olanlar.
    Bu konular biraz insani bozuyor, dusun dusun bosuna, kismet isleri.

    Turkone ciftide ayrilmamis ;( umutlarimda suya dustu , aday bile olamadim.

    YanıtlaSil
  4. Beyazi renk olarak onemseyenler, gun gelir tuvalet kagidinin rengini degistirirler mi?

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  5. Kulturumuzun bize asiladigi en ilginc riyakar zihniyet.

    Son paragrafda dedigin gibi erkekler olaya farkli ve objektif bakmali. Kadínín iyi olmasí beyaz rengine bagli degildir, kendisi siyah yahut beyaz renkten ibaret degil sadece. Bir obje degildir, bir insandir.

    Henúz cózemedik millet olarak bunu. Erkek nefsi icin herkesle yatarken iyi, kadín aynisini yaptigi icin kahpedir. Aynisini birak, birini sevdigi icin yapsa bile kótú kadíndír. Sen nesin o zaman ey erkek diyesi geliyor insan. Ama boyle asílamíslar iste bize. Gelde asíýi yok et bedeninden zihninden.

    Ya herkes yapsin, ya hic kimse yapmasin. Olay bu :idi:. En azindan ikiyúzlúlúk olmasin, insaní sírf o eylem icin yargilamasinlar.

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  6. o değil de bizde beyaz gelinlik diye bir şey yok-tu. batıdan ödünç alınmış bir adettir beyaz gelinlik. türk gelini kırmızı gelinlik giyer. bizim adetimiz budur.

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  7. örf ve adetlerimizin kaçina ve hangisine sahip çika bilmis elemanlar! Buralarda kirmizi kina gecesine aittir, bari ucundan yakalaya bilelim.

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